Tips menangani anak-anak

1) Jangan pukul anak dari lutut ke atas

2) Jangan gunakan tangan/anggota tubuh kita utk memukul anak dengan tangan dan jangan sesekali menampar anak pakai tangan kita. nanti anak jadi bertambah degil dan nakal dan tak boleh control

3) Rotan/pukul anak di telapak kakinya . Secara saintifiknya ada kaitan dengan refleksologi dan merangsang ke bahagian otak

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. "Berguraulah dengan anak kamu kala usianya satu hingga tujuh tahun. Berseronok dengan mereka, bergurau hingga naik atas belakang pun tak apa. Jika suka geletek, kejar atau usik anak asalkan hubungan rapat. Lepas tujuh hingga 14 tahun kita didik dan ajar, kalau salah pukullah dia (sebagai pengajaran)" dimana yang nak dipukul tu? Tapak kakinya ... bukan muka, punggung, telinga dan ditempat-tempat yang sensitif... itu salah...

4) Mulakanlah hidup anak anda dengan nama panggilan yang baik. Nama panggilan yang kurang baik akan menyebabkan anak anda malu dan merasa rendah diri. (Dalam Islam sendiri nama panggilan yang baik adalah digalakkan).

5) Berikan anak anda pelukkan setiap hari (Kajian menunjukkan anak yang dipeluk setiap hari akan mempunyai kekuatan IQ yg lebih kuat daripada anak yang jarang dipeluk)

6) Pandanglah anak anda dengan pandangan kasih sayang (Pandangan ini akan membuatkan anak anda lebih yakin diri apabila berhadapan dengan persekitaran)

7) Berikan peneguhan setiap kali anak anda berbuat kebaikan (Berilah pujian, pelukkan, ciuman, hadiah ataupun sekurang-kurangnya senyuman untuk setiap kebaikan yang dilakukannya).

8) Janganlah mengharapkan anak anda yang belum matang itu melakukan sesuatu perbuatan baik secara berterusan, mereka hanya kanak-kanak yang sedang berkembang. Perkembangan mereka buatkan mereka ingin mengalami setiap perkaratermasuklah berbuat silap.

9) Apabila anda berhadapan dengan masalah kerja dan keluarga,pilihlah keluarga (Seorang penulis menyatakan anak-anak terus membesar. Masa itu terus berlalu dan tak akan kembali).

10) Di dalam membesarkan dan mendidik anak-anak, janganlah tuan/puan mengeluh. Keluhan akan membuatkan anak-anak merasakan diri mereka beban.

11) Dengarlah cerita anak anda, cerita itu tak akan dapat anda dengari lagi pada masa akan datang. Tunggu giliran anda untuk bercakap (Ini akan mengajar anak anda tentang giliran untuk bercakap)

12) Tenangkan anak anda setiap kali mereka memerlukannya.

13) Tunjukkan kepada anak anda bagaimana cara untuk menenangkan diri. Mereka akan menirunya.

14) Buatkan sedikit persediaan untuk anak-anak menyambut harijadinya. Sediakanlah hadiah harijadi yang unik walaupun harganya murah. Keunikan akan membuatkan anak anda belajar menghargai. (Anak2 yg dtg daripada persekitaran yang menghargai akan belajar menghargai orang lain).

15) Kemungkinan anak kita menerima pengajaran bukan pada kali pertama belajar. Mereka mungkin memerlukan kita mengajar mereka lebih daripada sekali.

16) Luangkanlah masa bersama anak anda diluar rumah, peganglah tangan anak-anak apabila anda berjalan dengan mereka. Mereka tentu akan merasa kepentingan kehadiran mereka dalam kehidupan anda suami isteri.

17) Dengarlah mimpi ngeri anak-anak anda. Mimpi ngeri mereka adalah begitu real dalam dunia mereka.

18) Hargailah permainan kesayangan anak anda. Mereka juga dalam masa yang sama akan menghargai barang-barang kesayangan anda. Elakkan daripada membuang barang kesayangan mereka walaupun sudah rosak. Mintalah kebenaran mereka sebelum berbuat demikian.

19) Janganlah membiarkan anak-anak anda tidur tanpa ciuman selamat malam,

20) Terimalah yang kadangkala anda bukanlah ibubapa yang sempurna. Ini akan mengurangkan stress menjadi ibu bapa.

21) Jangan selalu membawa bebanan kerja pejabat ke rumah. Anak-anak akan belajar bahawa kerja pejabat selalunya lebih penting daripada keluarga.

22) Anak menangis untuk melegakan keresahan mereka tetapi kadangkala cuma untuk sound effect sahaja. Bagaimanapun dengarilah mereka, dua puluh tahun dari sekarang anda pula yang akan menangis apabila rumah mula terasa sunyi. Anak-anak anda mula sibuk mendengar tangisan anak mereka sendiri.

"anak- anak ibarat kain pUtih. iBu bApa laH yanG mencoRakkanNya menjaDi yAhudI, nAsRani atAu mAjusI"

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Tak tahu apa aku nak letak title untuk post hari ni, yang penting aku rasa sedeh sgt :( kenapalah Allah wujudkan manusia yang berhati busuk yang sibuk nak amik tahu hal orang lain tu.. Aku tak usik malah tak pernah nak buruk-burukkan diri dia dan menceritakan pada umum.. even aku tak puas hati, aku masih lagi waras untuk tidak membuka pekung orang lain...

Nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect. Nobody has it easy, and everybody has issues. You never know what people are going through. So pause before you start judging, criticizing, or mocking others. Everybody is fighting their own unique war! So better mind your own business..

Sampai that person boleh perli dengan mengatakan yang currently someone been busy online everytime in the office especially during office hour.. aikk, someone itu ajer ker yg online..? Makhluk lain tak pernah online ke..? Dan yang aku aim cuma dia.. dia sahaja yang sibuk nak mengadu kat that person pasal tu.. even last time dialah makhluk yang been busy sangat at office bukan nak update kerja, tapi sibuk update her personal blog (orang ada blog katakan..) haaaa jangan ingat aku tak tahu sapa kau yang suka mengadu, and not even me who knows that you used to online before.. tapi tak der pulak kau nak bukak pekung sendiri kan..

Cuma aku nak ckp, maybe hari ni aku berada di bawah, tapi tunggulah.. sbb masa kau juga akan tiba.. dan masa tu baru kau rasa berapa peritnya hati menanggung..

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, her friend can help her up. But pity the girl who falls and has no one to help her up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? The one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves..

So, how about me? me just alone which nobody can help me when me falls down.. Pity me :(

Score A Programme

What is Score A Programme™ ?

Score A Programme™ is a fully interactive programmed based on the official government syllabus that has been proven effective to help students be exam ready and Score A’s.

Actually, my hubby bought this product from his new friend called Dr Jamal which currently doing part time in this MLM industry. His wife actually done this but as a husband, he supported his wife interest 100%.

Almost 2 months my daughter Aisyatul Husna using this programme. The result outcome? Okeylah.. she's happy and she will do the task almost every day @ nite time. Both of us will make sure that she will do the exercise even 1 test. Actually, once we bought this programme which contains 2 excess cards, and we can use for 2 kids. The syllabus are from Standard 1 until Form 5 and covered almost all of Kementerian Pendidikan subjects.

http://www.scorea.com.my/eng/index.cfm

You guys can go to above link as it contains more info on this product. and fyi, my hubby one of the agent which sell and join this product MLM's. The head quarters is in Kota Damansara and the building called Wisma Kenshido. Below is the full address :-

Kenshido International Sdn Bhd

Wisma Kenshido, No 1-1, 1-2, 1-3,Jalan PJU 5/6, Dataran Sunway PJU 5,
47810 Kota Damansara, Petaling Jaya, Selangor Malaysia.
Tel: 603-6141 8286 (Hunting Line) Fax:603-6141 8126, 6141 8136
Website: http://www.kenshido.com / www.scorea.com
E-mail: enquiries@kenshido.com

The costs? RM796 per portal for 1 year usage. Means you will get 2 excess cards which can activate and Top-up a Score A Programme portal which will have one Parent Login and one or two Dependent/child. The Parent ID will be used to manage your portal such as change of address, phone numbers, SMS setup, etc. The Dependent ID will be used to access the Examhall.

PELANCARAN PORTAL PENDIDIKAN SCORE A

PERINGKAT NEGERI JOHOR OLEH

Y.B. Dato Sri Hishammuddin Bin Tun Hussein

Menteri Pelajaran Malaysia, 3-3-2006

Hari Raya Aidiladha 2011

Raya agenda ? Not too sure as no plan so far created. Kesian my both kids, they will have 3 days school leave, but will stay at home only.. Me pulak supposed to have half day leave on Tuesday (a day after raya), but forgotten to apply leave on Thursday.. so not sure weather still can continue my plan which already promised Kak Ella to help her for Korban activity which will be held at Conti Sport Club on that day.. Plus, I have lots of pending works waiting to be completed, as you know, no assistant to help me :( tak macam that person who can easily take leave as she has back up friend who can help her.. huhu.. aku ni tak habis2 ingat kisah lama.. dah berkurun lah cik Jehan wooooi.. sudah2 lah tu, buangkan ia jauh2 kalau boleh jgn ingat dah nanti makan jiwa pulak.. who cares kan ??

Eidul Adha which is known as Aidil Adha in various parts of the world is one of the most significant festival of muslim world wide. Me which this year chosen not to celebrate at my beloved home town due to hubby have to work on that day.. Sedeh sangat :( since so many months we all not balik kampung.. I really miss my family so muchhhh.. especially to my beloved Ayah, my giler2 siblings which tak kering gusi if we were together. Really miss them lots :( and not to forget my lovely Chena which currently makin notty.. gewam betul Chik 8-)

Ahaaa, as you guys can see, me again changed the layout of this diary.. bukan apa, jemu kan.. asyiklah layout yang sama padahal I have changed it recently..hehe

On last Friday, 10 staff from Market Demand team including me have outside meeting which held at Singgahsana Hotel, Petaling Jaya.. Chairs by our big boss, Nachi and it started at 9am and finished around 6.30pm.. it covers so many topics/agenda including year 2011, what we have archived and etc. There are 3 departments planning agenda for year 2012 and also coming project. Not to forget staff benefits which we planned to have overnite meeting outside, maybe at Port Dickson (haha, not sure weather I can join.. as you know.....) Major changed will be happened to our department especially involving the staff and this will be discussed on our next MDM meeting on Dec. So, wait and see friends :)

Later we have dinner at Sunway Hotel exactly after meeting so called Annual Dinner.. So all of us including staff who not join the meeting also invited to join the dinner. The dinner supposed to start at 7pm but Maya and me a bit lambat.. Yelah kan, exactly after meeting which stopped at 6.30pm, we both solat Asar first and once arrived Sunway Hotel, we directly went for solat Maghrib.. so lambatlah kan.. hehe

The menu not so bad but as usual, rugi kalau bawak I pegi dinner.. bayar mahal2 and makannya pulak sikit :( lagipun banyak manapun kan boleh melantak, dinner pulak tu.. And on the same time, we celebrated Indra's 55th birthday.. the chocolate cake provided by the hotel.. sedap kot tapi I tak sempat makan, ingatkan nak tapau.. tapi when we leave early then, forgotten to take back.. rugi pulak rasanya :(

Anyway, we really enjoy the both agenda and big thanks for our MDM boss who really take care of his staff benefit.. Thanks boss !!

Happy Diwali

Wishing everyone a Happy Deepavali. It's a great time to get together with family and friends, enjoy the festivities and the fantastic food that goes with it!

I don’t know if it's just me, but it seems that less and less people are celebrating the festivals like old India people used too. I personally feel that it's important for them to celebrate like old people used too, let's not let the spirit die off and while you are at it, invite your friends to enjoy the festivities with you and your family as well!

If you are driving , drive safe and be safe if fireworks come into play :)

Price Tag sings by Shila Amzah

Seems like everybody’s got a price,
I wonder how they sleep at night.
When the tale comes first,
And the truth comes second,
Just stop, for a minute and
Smile

Why is everybody so serious!
Acting so damn mysterious
You got your shades on your eyes
And your heels so high
That you can’t even have a good time.

Everybody look to their left (yeah)
Everybody look to their right (ha)
Can you feel that (yeah)
Well pay them with love tonight

It’s not about the money, money, money
We don’t need your money, money, money
We just wanna make the world dance,
Forget about the Price Tag

Ain’t about the (ha) Cha-Ching Cha-Ching.
Aint about the (yeah) Ba-Bling Ba-Bling
Wanna make the world dance,
Forget about the Price Tag.

We need to take it back in time,
When music made us all UNITE!
And it wasn’t low blows and video Hoes,
Am I the only one gettin tired?

Wajah2 Kesayangan Hamba

Masa berlalu begitu cepat.. rasanya baru semalam nikah, alih2 dah ada 2 anak..

comel2 pulak tue :) My eldest daughter Aisyatul Husna going to be 7th this month end,

and my second Rafiq Irfan is 5 now.. hopefully get another cute baby soon, InsyaAllah.

so, enjoy below pics which taken in these few months by mama's phone.

Mama luvs you lots darling !!

The Best Life Quotes

Most of the followings are my favourite :)

1) In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away

2) When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.

3) Never tell your problems to anyone.. 20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.

4) Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

5) I always knew looking back on the tears would make me laugh, but I never knew looking back on the laughs would make me cry.

6) Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.

7) When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.

8) Work like you don't need the money, love like you've never been hurt and dance like one is watching.

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dah takder kerja nak dengki dengan aku ?

again.. me forgetting this diary.. so many sad things happened, which hard for me to forget :(

sememangnya ramai orang dengki kalau tengok kita senang.. especially orang yang memang tak ngam dengan kita.. sebab apa tak ngam? sebabnya aku malas nak ngamkan diri dengan orang yang sememangnya busuk hati kat aku ni dari dulu lagi.. entah apa aku buat kat dia pun tak tahu :( .. dia ni muka lawa, tapi sayang perangai tak berapa nak lawa..

dia ni anggap diri dia kononnya yang terbest, tahu serba serbi, kesayangan ramai org, senang sepanjang masa, banyak duwet boleh bermegah2 beli itu ini .. sedangkan hakikatnya blur dan tak best pun.. hahah.. kalau 'org lama' dia dijadikan favourite, aku tak rasa 'org baru' akan anggap dia begitu.. sebab pandangan mata kasar aku ni, 'org baru' tak sebodoh 'org lama' yang langsung tak tahu perkembangan environment luar.. yang 'org lama' nampak budak tu ajalah yang bagus.. kononnya lah..

aku bukan nak ambik hati sangat dengan perangai dia, yelah bukan dia pun yang bagi aku makan dan tanggung anak2 aku.. tapi masalahnya disebabkan mulut dia yang macam longkang tu telah hampir2 menyekat rezeki aku, dan yang paling latest aku dengar dia dok mengata aku depan orang lain, korang rasa patut kah aku ni diamkan diri.. selamanya??

oh tidak.. i'm not that very kind of person yang baik hati sangat nak diamkan hal ni.. yelah, apa yang aku buat selama ni serba tak kena.. asyiklah dijeling, mencuri dengar apa yang aku perkatakan.. dingata2.. diceritakan merata2.. kononnya aku ni teruk sangat.. padahal dia pun apa kurangnya, lebih teruk dari 2x5 nyah.. jangan ingat kau tu akan senang sepanjang masa.. ingat sikit kau juga akan berada di bawah ya.. cuma masanya cepat dengan lambat je.. haa masa kau susah nanti kau tahulah apa yang telah aku rasa.. barulah kau tahu langit tu tinggi ke rendah..

tapi itulah yang aku kata tadi.. orang tak akan puas hati kalau tengok kita senang..

ingattt.. aku masih lagi simpan bukti yang menunjukkan mulut kau yang sememangnya macam bangkai itue.. menjaja cerita ke sana ke mari tentang aku.. mungkin kau tak tahu yang aku menympannya dan dari mana aku dapat jangan ditanya.. sampai masa nanti akan aku dedahkan.. lihatlah duniaaaa :)

geram aku.. ada lagi manusia yang tak bertamadun dalam dunia serba moden ni.. sedarlah wahai manusia.. Allah tak akan mengubah sesuatu kaum itu selagi kau tidak merubahnya..

Muka ajer lawa.. lawa ker? hahaha lawalah dari aku ni tapi jangan tertipu ye kawan2.. muka dia ajer yang lawa tapi perangainya idakkkk

Thought for the Day

welcome back to myself ;)

For so many years I'm ignoring this 'diary' (almost 2 years maybe), I think this is the right time & right place for me to update with those things I had. PENAT.. this is the best word to describe how busy I am. Currently doing 2 jobs in one time, and also don't forget raising my two notty kids is not the easy task to do. The most satisfying things I had is to raise them.. they grows and we'll get the best experience along the journey..